Author: Alex Vidal

If you’re reading this blog, there’s a good chance you’re more concerned with making sure a guy is attracted and interested in you than in pushing us away. But what if you want to make sure things don’t work out with a guy you’re getting to know? What if you just want to tank a budding relationship, to really make it go down in flames? Or maybe you’re a little more reasonable and you actually do want things to work out with a guy — but you think it would be helpful to have a list of don’ts to refer to. If that’s the case, I can help. In fact, my idea for this post seemed so off-putting that I really wanted to get it right, so I started by polling my panel of sensitive-but-manly guy friends to get their lists of least attractive traits in a woman, and worked from that. What follows is our collective wisdom distilled into a countdown of the top five least attractive traits in a woman:

A friend and longtime reader just wrote because she’s dating again and facing a dilemma. Tradition has it that the guy pays for the first date, but should you still offer to split the bill? What about after that? How many dates should the guy pay for? And when does he lose points for splitting the bill, or for letting you pay instead?