Christian Dating Online – Acceptable or Not?

Being “unequally yoked”, as the Bible says, may be the very reason why first Christian dating sites started emerging. This is a place where folks of the same background and faith can come across one another. Anyway, since everyone is already engaged in online dating, why would Christians be any different?

Almost anyone would probably agree to a statement that online dating is becoming more and more reasonable and acceptable in the society. This may be approved by many but that doesn’t mean that it is the right thing to do. Nevertheless, the question is whether the church is vulnerable to the idea of Christian dating. Let’s have a look at this subject matter closer and let’s base it on two things: 1. What the Bible says pertaining to love and dating, and 2. What Christian singles may think about it.

What the Bible Says About Love  

There is a Christian belief that love comes when the time is right. This is what we have heard in the church since we were very young. You can discover various Bible verses which would attest to this. You will find these in different words but the thought doesn’t change. There is one line in particular that embodies the essence of this idea perfectly. It can be found in the Song of Songs 8:4: “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not excite or awaken love till it so desires.” Now, isn’t online dating about taking matters into your hand? Aren’t you waking up love? Based on this Bible verse, love comes when the time is right and you should be prepared for it. It can be rather hard to know when is the excellent time but rest assured, it will come.

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The Perspective of A Christian Single  

The Bible has always been black and white regarding certain things, but those who avidly read it can not deny that there are a handful of grey areas that exist. This applies to more than the subject of dating and love. Other doubtable matters are drinking of alcohol, going out and clubbing and many more. That’s probably why 1 Corinthians 10:23 says: “I have the right to do anything,” you say – but not everything is useful. “I have the right to do anything” – but not everything is constructive.

For the majority of Christians, the Lord concentrates on our intentions. This is why joining a dating site can be harmless if you have good intentions. If you’re pretending to be a Christian just for the sake of finding someone who won’t cheat on you, then that’s not acceptable. However, if your intentions are to sign up and get to know folks who have the same beliefs as you then that’s alright, isn’t it?

We all have our own opinion on online dating, no matter if it is online dating for Christians or not. What are your thoughts? Is it acceptable for Christians to take part in online dating sites or is it way too much into the grey area to be tampered with?

Alex Vidal

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