Breakups are like a really bad cold—you know it’s going to pass, but while you’re in the thick of it, it feels just awful. It’s that heart – wrenching moment when you realize that the person you shared so much with, the one you thought might be “the one,” is no longer going to be a part of your daily life.​

The first few days after a breakup are usually the roughest. I remember when my friend Sarah went through a breakup. She was a mess. She couldn’t stop crying. Every song on the radio seemed to be about love and heartbreak, making it even harder for her. She would lie in bed all day, replaying every moment of their relationship in her head. The photos they took together, the inside jokes they shared—everything was a painful reminder of what she had lost.​

One of the hardest things about a breakup is dealing with the sudden change in routine. When you’re in a relationship, you get used to doing things together. You might have breakfast together every morning, or watch a movie every Friday night. But after a breakup, all of those routines are gone. You’re left with a lot of free time, and it can feel really empty. My friend Jake found this out the hard way. He and his girlfriend used to go for a run every weekend. After the breakup, he didn’t know what to do with himself on Saturday mornings. He would just lie in bed, feeling sorry for himself.​

Then there’s the issue of social media. In today’s digital age, it’s almost impossible to avoid your ex. You see their posts, their new photos, and it’s like a stab in the heart. It’s even worse when you see them with someone new. My cousin Emily was scrolling through Instagram one day and saw her ex with a new girl. She was devastated. She couldn’t believe that he had moved on so quickly.​

But slowly, people start to heal. Sarah decided to focus on herself. She joined a yoga class and made some new friends. Jake started running alone, and he actually found that he enjoyed it more than running with his ex. Emily deleted her ex from all social media platforms and started to focus on her hobbies.​

As time passes, the pain starts to fade. The memories that once made you cry now bring a small smile to your face. You start to realize that there’s life after a breakup, and that you’re stronger than you thought.

Breakup Blues, it’s like this unwelcome guest that shows up unannounced and decides to stick around for way too long. You know, that heavy feeling in your chest, the constant overthinking, and the mood swings that can hit you out of the blue. We’ve all been there, or at least most of us have, and it’s never a fun ride.​

When a relationship ends, it’s not just about losing a partner. It’s like losing a part of your daily routine, your future plans, and sometimes even a bit of your identity. You go from having someone to share every little thing with, from the silliest inside jokes to your deepest fears, to suddenly being alone. That void can feel huge. Remember that time when you and your ex used to have breakfast together every morning, chatting about nothing and everything? Now, that table just feels empty, and those quiet mornings seem way too quiet.​

The emotional toll of Breakup Blues is no joke. One minute you’re feeling angry, asking yourself, “How could they do this to me?” You might find yourself replaying all the arguments and disagreements in your head, trying to figure out where it all went wrong. And then, out of nowhere, the sadness hits. You start missing them like crazy, thinking about all the good times you had. You might cry while listening to a song that reminds you of them or while passing by a place you used to go together. It’s a wild rollercoaster of emotions, and it can be exhausting.​

Socially, Breakup Blues can also throw you off balance. You might avoid going out with friends because you don’t feel like being around people. You’re worried that they’ll ask you about your ex, or you just don’t have the energy to pretend that everything’s okay. And then there are those awkward moments when you do see mutual friends. You’re not sure if they’re on your side or your ex’s, and you feel like you have to be careful about what you say. It can be isolating, making you feel even more alone in your misery.​

But here’s the thing, we can’t let the Breakup Blues completely derail our lives. The first step is to give yourself permission to feel. It’s normal to be sad, angry, or confused. Bottling up those emotions will only make it worse in the long run. So, have that good cry, scream into your pillow if you need to. Let it all out.​

Then, start focusing on yourself. Rediscover the things you loved to do before you were in a relationship. Maybe it was painting, reading, or going for long walks. Pick up those hobbies again. It’s a great way to reconnect with yourself and find some joy in life again. Surround yourself with positive people, your real friends who will support you and lift your spirits. They can remind you of all the amazing things about you that you might have forgotten during this tough time.​

It’s not going to be easy, and there will be setbacks. There will be days when you still feel like you’re back at square one. But with time, the Breakup Blues will start to fade. You’ll look back and realize that you’ve grown stronger and wiser from this experience. You’ll be ready to open your heart again someday, when the right person comes along. And until then, you’ll be okay, learning to love and live life on your own terms.

You know that feeling when your world seems to turn upside down, and it feels like a dark cloud is following you around everywhere you go? That’s what I like to call “The Heartbreak Hangover,” or more commonly known as the Breakup Blues. It’s that tough time after a relationship ends, and it can be a real rollercoaster of emotions.​

Right after the breakup, it’s like a shockwave hits you. You’re in disbelief that the person you thought you’d build a future with is suddenly out of your life. You might find yourself replaying the last few days or weeks of the relationship in your head, trying to figure out where it all went wrong. One minute you’re angry, asking yourself, “How could they do this to me?” You might be mad at them for breaking your heart, or even a bit mad at yourself for not seeing the signs earlier.​

And then, the sadness sets in. It’s like a heavy weight on your chest. You start to miss all the little things about them. Remember those lazy Sunday mornings when you’d lie in bed together, just chatting and laughing? Now, your bed feels empty and cold. You might find yourself crying at the drop of a hat, especially when you come across something that reminds you of them, like a song you used to listen to together or a place you used to go.​

The Breakup Blues also mess with your daily life. You might lose your appetite. Food just doesn’t taste as good as it used to. And sleep? Forget about it. You toss and turn at night, your mind racing with thoughts of your ex and what could have been. Your friends try to cheer you up, but it’s hard to snap out of it. You might even avoid going out with them because you don’t have the energy to pretend that everything’s okay.​

Socially, it can be awkward. You’re not sure how to act around mutual friends. Are they going to take your side or your ex’s? You might feel like you’re walking on eggshells. And then there are those moments when you see your ex’s name pop up on your phone or on social media. Your heart skips a beat, and you’re filled with a mix of emotions. Do you check what they’ve posted? Or do you resist the urge and try to move on?​

But here’s the thing, as tough as it is, you will get through this. First, give yourself permission to feel all these emotions. It’s normal to be sad, angry, and confused. Bottling it up will only make it worse. So, have that good cry, scream into your pillow if you need to. Let it all out.​

Then, start focusing on yourself again. Rediscover the things you loved to do before you were in a relationship. Maybe you used to love painting, but you stopped when you got busy with your partner. Pick up that paintbrush again. Go for long walks, read a good book, or try a new hobby. Surround yourself with positive people who will support you and remind you of how amazing you are.​

It won’t be easy, and there will be setbacks. There will be days when you feel like you’re back at square one. But with time, the pain will start to fade. You’ll look back and realize that you’ve grown stronger from this experience. You’ll be ready to open your heart again someday, when the right person comes along. Until then, take it one day at a time, and know that better days are ahead.​